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The Resource It takes one to tango : how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too, Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT

It takes one to tango : how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too, Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT

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With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage. Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how or whether to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partn, acting alone, can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be, or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective and powerful. Through Reilly's own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients she's worked with, you'll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the "big picture" issues at the basis of your repetitive fights and learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouse's provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a fresh and engaging guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage
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eng
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First Touchstone hardcover edition.
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xxii, 261 pages
Contents
  • For better or worse: how to identify the real problem in your relationship. What in the world did "I do"?: marriage may be challenging, but it isn't impossible ; Why marriage can be so hard: we're playing a game, and we don't even understand the rules ; Don't be afraid to change first: how to become the front-runner for change in your marriage
  • Now what do I do?: how to implement change by yourself. It gets a lot easier once you know what to fix: if what you're doing isn't working, try something new ; Keep your anxiety from running the show: strengthen your tolerance for the things that push your buttons ; What happens once you calm down?: growing separately, together ; The big picture: how to recognize what you're really fighting about ; We all play a part: you have more power than you think ; Marriage is a choice: making peace with the little (and even big) things that drive us nuts ; Hidden in plain sight: how we get unhooked from our big-picture issues
  • Welcome to your stronger, more loving relationship: how to keep learning and growing, separately and together. 360 degrees and sunny: the surprising truth about what makes happy couples happy ; It takes one to tango: a pep talk for your journey
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9781541451568
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It takes one to tango : how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too
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It takes one to tango
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how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too
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Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT
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eng
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With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage. Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how or whether to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partn, acting alone, can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be, or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective and powerful. Through Reilly's own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients she's worked with, you'll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the "big picture" issues at the basis of your repetitive fights and learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouse's provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a fresh and engaging guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage
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306.8101/9
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LC call number
HQ734
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.R3445 2017
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It takes one to tango : how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too, Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT
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Contents
For better or worse: how to identify the real problem in your relationship. What in the world did "I do"?: marriage may be challenging, but it isn't impossible ; Why marriage can be so hard: we're playing a game, and we don't even understand the rules ; Don't be afraid to change first: how to become the front-runner for change in your marriage -- Now what do I do?: how to implement change by yourself. It gets a lot easier once you know what to fix: if what you're doing isn't working, try something new ; Keep your anxiety from running the show: strengthen your tolerance for the things that push your buttons ; What happens once you calm down?: growing separately, together ; The big picture: how to recognize what you're really fighting about ; We all play a part: you have more power than you think ; Marriage is a choice: making peace with the little (and even big) things that drive us nuts ; Hidden in plain sight: how we get unhooked from our big-picture issues -- Welcome to your stronger, more loving relationship: how to keep learning and growing, separately and together. 360 degrees and sunny: the surprising truth about what makes happy couples happy ; It takes one to tango: a pep talk for your journey
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First Touchstone hardcover edition.
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xxii, 261 pages
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9781541451568
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